Private couples intensives · San Diego
Months of couples work, in two, three, or four days.
Weekly therapy asks you to open something painful, then close it back up after fifty minutes and carry it through the week. For some couples that rhythm works. For others, it means you never get past the surface. A private intensive gives one couple the uninterrupted time and individualized attention to actually finish the conversation, drawing on the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and an integrative mind-body-spirit approach.
Couples travel to San Diego from across the country for this work. See how our fly-in couples intensive works, including where to stay and how to plan your trip.
When weekly sessions aren't moving it.
Fifty minutes a week is roughly forty hours a year, minus the time spent catching up and re-regulating. Couples in real crisis often spend most of that just getting back to where they left off.
An intensive removes that overhead. You go deep once, privately, with enough room to reach the thing underneath, and you leave with something different than you came in with.
One arc, four stages
Every intensive moves through the same framework, built around the couple in front of us. How far into it you go depends on what you're carrying and which format you choose.
Foundation
Safety first. We map the pattern beneath the conflict and what each of you learned about love and trust long before you met.
Repair
The hard conversation you've been circling, with a clinician in the room so nobody has to hold it alone and nobody gets to leave.
Rebuild
Turning insight into new patterns, agreements, and ways of reaching for each other that hold up on an ordinary Tuesday.
Stabilization
Giving the change room to settle, so what shifted in the room becomes something you can keep once you go home.
It begins before you arrive
Your intensive doesn't start when you walk in. It starts with ROOTED, our private pre-assessment, completed separately by each partner beforehand. It's a reflective questionnaire, not a test and not a diagnosis, and it helps us understand your relationship before you ever sit down, so day one begins in the deep end instead of on intake.
ROOTED then follows you all the way through: an experiential workbook you use during the intensive itself, and a stabilization arc in the weeks after. It's the throughline that keeps the whole experience personal to you.
ROOTED Pre-Assessment
Completed privately by each partner before arrival. We read the relationship before we meet it.
Private intensive
Your days together, guided by the ROOTED workbook and tailored to what your assessment surfaced.
Aftercare Blueprint
A personalized roadmap built from what actually emerged in your intensive. Yours alone.
Four-week follow-up
Four weekly sessions to stabilize and integrate the work once you're back in normal life.
A note on language: the ROOTED workbook and your Aftercare Blueprint are two different things. The workbook is the experiential companion you use in the room. The Blueprint is a separate roadmap we write for you afterward, drawn from your actual intensive, never a generic handout.
Unhurried, private, built around you
One couple at a time. No group, no audience, no clock cutting you off mid-sentence. The days move between focused clinical work, quiet reflection, experiential exercises, and real restoration, at a pace you can actually absorb.
Together, then one on one
Time side by side mapping the pattern, and private time with each of you to reach what's hard to say in the room. The rhythm shifts with what the day needs.
Clinical work that goes somewhere
Gottman and EFT woven together to get underneath the arguments, not just referee them. The presenting problem is rarely the real one, and we have the time to find it.
Room to breathe
Real pauses are built in, not squeezed out. Mind-body-spirit integration and genuine rest let each stretch of work settle before the next begins.
Something you can keep
Insight that doesn't survive contact with real life is worth little. You leave with concrete agreements, new skills, and a personalized Aftercare Blueprint, not just a good feeling.
Three private intensive formats
All three are private, for one couple only, in our Mission Valley office. Which one fits depends on what you're working through, and we'll tell you honestly on the screening call.
Every private intensive includes
The work isn't only in the chairs
Restoration matters as much as insight. Woven into your days are experiences designed to help your nervous systems settle and to mark what you've moved through, not as extras bolted on, but as part of how the work lands.
Restorative bodywork
A private restorative bodywork experience, intentionally placed after the hardest stretch of the work, designed to support nervous-system decompression and let the body catch up with what the heart has been doing.
By the water
An intimate coastal closing to mark the turn and honor what you've moved through together. We keep the details a surprise, because some things land better when you don't see them coming.
Not a worksheet. Your roadmap.
Most couples work sends you home with a stack of generic handouts. Your Aftercare Blueprint is the opposite of that. It's written for you, after your intensive, from what actually emerged in your days together, your patterns, your agreements, the specific things that will try to pull you back.
It names what to watch for, what to practice, and how to reach for each other when the old cycle shows up. It's the difference between remembering a good experience and actually keeping what you built.
We don't send you home and hope it sticks.
The weeks right after an intensive are when the work either takes hold or quietly fades. So every intensive includes four weekly follow-up sessions in the month after you return, built into the price, not sold as an add-on. This is where the change gets stabilized into ordinary life.
Land back home and put the first agreements into practice while everything is still fresh.
Notice where the old cycle tries to return, and adjust the plan to real life.
Reinforce what's holding and troubleshoot what isn't, together in session.
Consolidate, and set the path forward, whether that's on your own or with continued support.
New Birth also offers an intentionally small Couples Restoration Retreat, a shared destination experience limited to just four couples, for those who want this work alongside a few others rather than fully private.
Many couples travel in for their intensive. Our fly-in couples intensive page covers where to stay, timing, and how to plan the trip so you arrive ready.
Application, then a conversation
We don't take bookings from a button. An intensive is too much time, trust, and vulnerability to hand over without talking first.
Apply
A short form about what's going on, what you've already tried, and what you're hoping for. About ten minutes. No payment at this stage.
Screening call
A conversation with Dr. Ransom about whether an intensive is the right fit, which format makes sense, and what to expect. Free, and either of us can say no.
Reserve your dates
If we both agree it's a fit, we send a deposit link and hold your dates. Your ROOTED Pre-Assessments go out from there.
A non-refundable deposit reserves your dates and applies toward your total: $1,000 for the two- and three-day, and $1,500 for the four-day, which can be split into two installments. It's only collected after we've spoken and agreed an intensive is right for you.
A doctor at the center of it
Your intensive is led by Dr. Regina Ransom, Ph.D., founder and clinical director of New Birth Family Counseling. Her approach blends the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, trauma-informed care, and holistic mind-body medicine, the same integrative philosophy New Birth is known for, brought to one couple at a time.
She has been married for thirty-three years, has raised six children, and served in the U.S. Navy before her clinical career. When couples come to New Birth for this work, they don’t get handed off. They work directly with her.
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What Couples Are Saying
Dr. Gina really opened my eyes to how my childhood attachment experiences were showing up in my relationship. I honestly didn’t even realize that was a thing, or how much I was carrying into my marriage without knowing it. She helped me understand myself and our relationship in a completely different way. Thank you, Dr. Gina, for your skill, insight, and the way you helped us see what was really underneath some of our struggles.
Dr. Gina, we can’t thank you enough for opening your schedule and finding a way to fit us in for an intensive when we really needed it. The experience was raw, real, and at times difficult, but it was exactly what we needed. You created a space where we could finally have conversations we had been avoiding and begin working through things we couldn’t seem to resolve on our own. We truly couldn’t have done this without you.
Working with Dr. Gina helped me see things about myself and our relationship that I would have never seen on my own. She didn’t just focus on what my partner was doing. She helped me understand my own role, my reactions, and the patterns I was contributing to. That kind of insight was huge for me. I walked away understanding our relationship, and myself, so much better. I would definitely recommend working with her.
We are so grateful to Dr. Gina for her knowledge, skill, and the way she guided us through an incredibly difficult time in our relationship. There were moments when we didn’t know how we were going to move forward, and having someone who could help us slow things down, understand what was happening between us, and work through the hard parts made such a difference. We will forever be thankful for the care and guidance you gave us.
I’m so thankful for the raw and necessary truth I received from you, Dr. Gina. You were direct with us when we needed it, but I never felt judged or looked down on. That mattered more than I can explain. As a veteran yourself, I also felt like you understood parts of what we were going through in a way that didn’t require a long explanation. Thank you for giving us a place where we could be honest, deal with the difficult things, and still feel respected throughout the process.
Individual experiences vary. Testimonials reflect individual client experiences and are not a guarantee of specific outcomes.
You've been having the same conversation
for a long time. Let's finish it.
Apply in about ten minutes. We'll follow up to schedule a screening call and tell you honestly whether a private intensive is the right move.
